Growing Pains


It is such a negative word, right?


The times we fall, realize we lost our way or lost ourselves, or made a bad choice. Whether we feel like we get punched in the gut by an act of betrayal or disloyalty. Whether we are overcome by extreme sadness and mourning for lost loved ones.

Pain, tears, sadness, and an overwhelming sense of loss of control…is not negative.

Because when you fall, and pick yourself back up.

When you lose your way, and then put yourself on the right path again.

When you make a bad choice, and then own that responsibility of that choice.

When you are betrayed, and learn and forgive.

When you mourn and remember a dear person in your life, and still find joy some time after…

There is strength,

discovery of self-identity,

lessons learned,

and so much personal growth through pain.


A dear friend of mine and I were having dinner. She was going through a rough time with a series of events that would knock anyone down for the count…and I looked at her and said, “I am excited for you.”


Because the time she was about to go through to heal, to overcome, and to learn was EXCITING. Obviously at the time and in the moment, her thoughts weren’t of excitement, but there is opportunity for thankfulness and growth through painful experiences.

So if you are going through a hard time, or when you do (because it happens to all of us), remember who you want to be regardless of other people’s influences, and choose that, ALWAYS. If you can’t think of anything positive, think about a perspective that takes you beyond the moment, and to the time where you can look back and realize how such a crappy time could have transformed and prepared you for what you are doing and who you are.



This entry was posted in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink.

3 Responses to Growing Pains

  1. Beautiful. And so relevant to my life right now. Thank you so much for reminding me why I’ve become so strong and how I’ve gotten to this point in my life today. I’m frequently told that I’ve been through things, like your dear friend, that would have knocked anyone down for the count. It doesn’t make me feel any better about what I’ve been through, knowing I “handled it well,” but it does put it into perspective. The fact that I’m still here and I’ve lived through these things makes my future seem so much brighter and my future self so much stronger and self-aware than any other version of myself. Seriously, thank you for your post. Love you.

  2. Mia says:

    you are fab. keep rocking.

Leave a Reply to Mia Cancel reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s