It is such a negative word, right?
The times we fall, realize we lost our way or lost ourselves, or made a bad choice. Whether we feel like we get punched in the gut by an act of betrayal or disloyalty. Whether we are overcome by extreme sadness and mourning for lost loved ones.
Pain, tears, sadness, and an overwhelming sense of loss of control…is not negative.
Because when you fall, and pick yourself back up.
When you lose your way, and then put yourself on the right path again.
When you make a bad choice, and then own that responsibility of that choice.
When you are betrayed, and learn and forgive.
When you mourn and remember a dear person in your life, and still find joy some time after…
There is strength,
discovery of self-identity,
and so much personal growth through pain.
A dear friend of mine and I were having dinner. She was going through a rough time with a series of events that would knock anyone down for the count…and I looked at her and said, “I am excited for you.”
Because the time she was about to go through to heal, to overcome, and to learn was EXCITING. Obviously at the time and in the moment, her thoughts weren’t of excitement, but there is opportunity for thankfulness and growth through painful experiences.
So if you are going through a hard time, or when you do (because it happens to all of us), remember who you want to be regardless of other people’s influences, and choose that, ALWAYS. If you can’t think of anything positive, think about a perspective that takes you beyond the moment, and to the time where you can look back and realize how such a crappy time could have transformed and prepared you for what you are doing and who you are.